Yesterday, AM sent me an email with this article attached and the message, “Don’t even think about it.”
Intrigued, I read the article. Interesting premise. According to a recent study is Sweden or wherever, most people turn over friends ever seven years. Or something like that. Well, let me just show you.
You may have more Facebook friends as the years go by, but when it comes to your , you lose about half and replace them with new ones after about seven years, new social research suggests.
As a result, the size of your social network stays about the same.
People might like to think they have control over whom they choose as friends, but could also be influenced by the context in which we meet one another. Sociologist Gerald Mollenhorst of Utrecht University in the Netherlands was interested in finding out exactly how much our networks are shaped by social context or by personal preference.
He conducted a survey of 1,007 people ages 18 to 65, and then contacted the participants seven years later. From the original group, 604 people were re-interviewed. The survey contained questions such as: Who do you talk with, regarding personal issues? Who helps you with DIY in your home? Who do you pop by to see? Where did you get to know that person? And where do you meet that person now?
The results showed that personal network sizes remained stable, but that many members of the network were new. About 30 percent of discussion partners and practical helpers had the same position in a typical subject’s network seven years later. And only 48 percent were still part of the network. This finding goes against previous research which had showed that social network sizes are shrinking.
Mollenhorst also established that networks were not formed based onalone. Our friend choices are limited by the opportunities to meet. He saw that people frequently choose friends from a context in which they have previously chosen a friend. Also, whether or not our friends know each other strongly depends on the context under which people meet.
Mollenhorst’s research is part of the project “Where friends are made. Context, Contacts, Consequences,” set up by Beate Völker.
A number of these points make sense to me. But I wonder whether we actual can see full turnover of half our close friends every seven years. I mean, close friends are hard to make and hard to keep. But to suggest that we can turn over HALF of those people in seven year time periods and REPLACE them with new close friends seems odd to me.
Okay, so someone moves, or gets married/has a baby and loses her mind, or leaves your mutual place of employment, and distance ends the closeness. Fine. But is it possible that we do this every seven years? G-d, that sounds exhausting.
Clearly, I have to think a little more about this. But AM has nothing to worry about. At the very least, not for six more years. Just think of poor AFD, ALJ, and GT who are beyond the seven year mark. Now, they might have something to worry about…